One thing is for certain, if the people in this clip were able to compile enough evidence for themselves, maybe the denial stage wouldn’t take so long.
Anger Anonymous (click) Believe it or not, when we former drunks finally quit drinking, we’re angry. I remember thinking, “alright, I’m not drinking, what else do they want?” “I was giving up all the knucklehead things I did, manage to keep my job and I’m doing what THEY want, so why am I so angry.” It was as though there was a conspiracy to get me to quit drinking. How dare them!
The fact is, subconsciously, we’re angry we had to give up the one thing we could depend on: Alcohol. Yeah, personally, it made us do crazy stuff, I was a lousy husband, not a good father and I almost lost my job, but it got me where I was comfortable. Drunk. It’s a very real loss. The parties, celebrations, so called friends at the bar. We’ve been let down.
Whether they realized it or not, they began the stages of grieving — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance — the same stages most people go through when they have a great loss in their lives or have been told they have a terminal illness.
Some of us never make it. It’s sad, sometimes many years later, still stuck in their anger, bitterness, and resentment at having to make the change in their lives. They haven’t had a drink in years, but they have also never had a “sober” day, in the true sense of its meaning. Out friend Buddy T, at about.com put it this way:
You even see them in the 12-step rooms… been in the program for years and years and their lives seem to be a constant unmanageable struggle. All those years and they have no more of a spiritual awakening than they did the first time they walked into the room.
“Dry Drunk” has been described as “A condition of returning to one’s old alcoholic thinking and behavior without actually having taken a drink.” Or as one wise old drunk put it, if a horse thief goes into A.A. what you can end up with is a sober horse thief. Or a personal favorite: you can take the rum out of the fruit cake, but you’ve still got a fruit cake!
Those who quit drinking but are still angry about it wind up living miserable lives and usually make everyone else around them miserable too. If it has been said once in an Al-Anon meeting, it has been whispered thousands of times, “I almost wish he would go back to drinking.”
We have a little saying that is helpful to newcomers: It’s HALT. Four things someone in recovery need to remember: Try not to get HUNGRY – ANGRY – LONLEY – or – TIRED. These are danger zones where we need to slow down because a relapse jumps off the curb and turns our lives back upside down.
See your sponsor, or anyone who has a measure of sobriety and talk to them. There is no such thing as justified anger. Not for us. Not for us..!
I’m sending along an ANGER ANONYMOUS spoof, to hopefully lighten your day a bit. God bless you all, I love you guys and I mean it.
There’s a new Women’s Magazine out this spring in Afghanistan.
Hoot speaks with Letterman about it. Check it out at mynameishoot.com/blog or on the Air Checks and Production page at mynameishoot.com.
Hoot chats with Dave about the ew “Afghan Women’s Magazine. (From Hoot’s Radio Show) Letterman talks about New Afgan Womens Mag
Drunk woman attacks TV newsman
Alcohol and drug use is spiraling out of control. Here are a few headlines from today’s newspapers:
Drug Case Dismissed Against Mackenzie Phillips… She was busted last August at Los Angeles International Airport after allegedly trying to sneak heroin and cocaine aboard an airliner.
On Oprah, Phillips revealed that she slept with her father, musician John Phillips of the ’60s band the Mamas and the Papas, in a long-term incestuous relationship. How do you get back on track after that? I don’t know if there’s enough booze or drugs to free up my brain from that.
Then there’s Lindsay Lohan, only 24 but now, with a long rap sheet of drug and alcohol abuse, odd behaviors and continuous trouble with the law. Now she’s being accused of violating her probation. She brushed off those reports yesterday claiming she’s been fully compliant in showing up on time and on schedule to her mandatory DUI classes.
Reports have surfaced that prosecutors would be seeking “significant jail time” if the reports show her in violation.
All this sounds too familiar to a “Drunk like me.” Just one irritating problem after another. Desparately trying to stay a step ahead of the next piece of trouble. Amazing how all these bothersome detours in life disappeared when I finally got sober. Look around my site, and check resources. If you’re living in this world, take the first step back to sanity.
In my next blog, Michael Douglas says the five year prison sentence given his son Cameron for being a drug dealer, is “Just.” His son is just like my daughter, I’ll explain. Then there’s the cop who was dealing drugs from the back of his police SUV.
If there’s anything you want to know about drugs or alcohol, send a note to me: Hoot@mynameishoot.com. If I don’t have the answer, I’ll find it. That’s a promise.
Have a happy day my friend.