I don’t know how I survived in my drunken world. Everything around me was crumbling. Alcoholism is a fatal illness in more ways than one. When someone you know appears to have a drinking problem,” I mean no disrespect when I say, “Run as fast as you can and don’t look back!!” That is number one.
Once you’ve had the requisite “talk” and he/she says he/she will do something about it, that’s when you (2) must demand to know exactly what he/she intends to do to stop drinking. Of course, unbeknownst to you, he/she may, at first, go underground wi th his/her drinking. So there will likely be more out-of-town business trips, for secret drinking. No one will know. No harm no foul, right? When you find out, you break-up, (3) or threaten to. Year in and year out, that will be the scenario you’ll exist under. (refer to number one recommendation)
The alcoholic is very crafty and will give you a variety of reasons causing him/her to drink. Job pressure usually tops the list. “It’s just a passing phase; I’ll cut back, maybe if I find a job in some other town, I’ll be okay.” Greener pastures. The alcoholic is constantly tries to outrun his self, but when he/she gets to the greener pasture, the old drunk shows up.
You need to know what to do if your loved one is a problem drinker. If you think he/she is a problem drinker, he/she probably is. You MUST KNOW WHAT TO DO..! Find Alanon on my resourses page at mynameishoot.com. This is a take-no-prisoners illness and you need to take it as seriously as you can. I don’t mean to be so dark, but I have to. Alanon is for the non-drinker in an alcoholic family. You’ll quickly learn what others have done and are doing to survive in an alcoholic environment.
God bless you my beautiful friends. If you’re suffering, I have some solutions. Send me a note; it’ll be just between you and me. Info@mynameishoot.com
Steve’s no stranger down at the station house. All he wanted is to get some oysters down on the corner. He was “Fixen” to do so when the long arm of the law, interceded.
Should I cut down on my drinking? Or Quit?
With fall here, screaming kids back to school and Labor Day behind us, it might be a good time to assess whether or not you’re drinking too much. The dangers of not knowing where you stand on the “Drunk O Meter,” could be catastrophic. You could lose everything; your family, kids, job and worse yet, your life or someone else’s life. The thing about alcoholism, as we say in my recovery program, is that it is the only disease that tells “you don’t have a disease.”
Here are a few things to consider: First, visit my site www.mynameishoot.com, then do a little self evaluation. If you have been drinking at a level that is considered high risk or heavy drinking, usually described as five or more drinks in one sitting, then you may want to consider making a change to your drinking pattern. — Or quit altogether. But which is the best choice for you? Should you try moderating your alcohol consumption, or should you try to quit?
Many people do learn to moderate their drinking and are successful in returning to a low risk drinking pattern. There are support groups for those who are trying to cut down or moderate their drinking. One of the best resources I’ve found, covering all aspects of drinking is, www.about.com/alcoholism.
When Cutting Down Doesn’t Work
If you try to cut down, but find that you cannot stay within the limits that you set for yourself, it may be best to quit instead. One of the main reasons that people decide to quit drinking and seek help to do so is because they find they have lost the ability to control the amount they drink; and that is the description of alcoholism!!
You are the person who is in the best position to make the decision of whether to cut down or quit. If you can consistently drink one or two drinks and no more, then you may be able to cut down to a low-risk drinking pattern. But if you find that those first two drinks usually trigger an urge for more, chances are moderation is not an option.
When Quitting Is Advised
There are other reasons that quitting drinking may be a better option for you than moderation or cutting down, according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. Please visit “Resources and links” at www.mynameishoot.com to see what may work best for you. Completely anonymous. Our thanks to www.about.com/alcoholism for the many resources they provide to those of us who have been dealt the alcoholism card.
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