I don’t know how I survived in my drunken world. Everything around me was crumbling. Alcoholism is a fatal illness in more ways than one. When someone you know appears to have a drinking problem,” I mean no disrespect when I say, “Run as fast as you can and don’t look back!!” That is number one.
Once you’ve had the requisite “talk” and he/she says he/she will do something about it, that’s when you (2) must demand to know exactly what he/she intends to do to stop drinking. Of course, unbeknownst to you, he/she may, at first, go underground wi th his/her drinking. So there will likely be more out-of-town business trips, for secret drinking. No one will know. No harm no foul, right? When you find out, you break-up, (3) or threaten to. Year in and year out, that will be the scenario you’ll exist under. (refer to number one recommendation)
The alcoholic is very crafty and will give you a variety of reasons causing him/her to drink. Job pressure usually tops the list. “It’s just a passing phase; I’ll cut back, maybe if I find a job in some other town, I’ll be okay.” Greener pastures. The alcoholic is constantly tries to outrun his self, but when he/she gets to the greener pasture, the old drunk shows up.
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