My name is Hoot and I’m an alcoholic! That’s the title of my book and the headline of my life. Five years ago, after quite a few years of sobriety, I bought a radio station in Northern, California. In the deal, the previous owners really screwed me with countless engineering problems, the small town I’m in had a large number of “good old boys” that you needed to please and the hits kept coming. It was enough to drive someone to drink!! But, not me! My program held me strong. I don’t know if I could have handled it in my earlier, shakier years.
I’ll do my best to keep you up on available information, helpful to individuals in our unique condition. I’ve make a lot of friends with helpful information we can all use, so I’ll load up with what I find so we can all benefit. I need it so I can pick up my 18 year chip this October.
Let me know what you think and share your strengths and hopes with me…
What can you do to stop your alcoholic from drinking?
It starts with acceptance. Aren’t you sick of hearing that phrase? So many of us feel like failures because we’re helpless in our efforts to stop the alcoholic from ruining his/her life and the lives of everyone around them. If your alcoholic would just stop drinking, everything would be great. Not so! Drinking is but a symptom of alcoholism, the root of the problem is deep within the psyche of the drinker.
The earlier the age the alcoholic began drinking, the more imbedded is the disease. Often, like me, the drinker’s maturation process is stunted. It is a character defect that continues to show its ugly head in my life, even after 15 years of sobriety.
Recently two of my close friends came back into my life, both in the program, and it was awful. My old friend whom I had working for me, was the sickest individual I’ve ever had the displeasure of working with. This guy was a one man wrecking crew perpetrating lies, untruths and innuendo, was very passive aggressive and almost brought down my radio station. He was a genuine nightmare to say the least. When he physically attacked me, he lost his job. The staff was very happy that he left town. And he was sober. Dry is more appropriate.
Then, there is the story of my sweet friend who married a guy in the program, moved to the Midwest with him and both are back out there drinking. After a couple of beatings, we spoke. She is like a little sister to me. It bothers me because there she goes again. As I predicted, she’s giving him one more chance, and he’s already intruding on her individuality. He’s jealous, angry and untrusting and is one or two words from giving her another beating. I’ve had to put on my Al-Anon jacket on again. I just hope she doesn’t end up violently beaten or worse. Two people in the program getting married is like two fully loaded garbage trucks in a head-on collision going a hundred miles an hour. What a mess.
Al-anon members do not give direction or advice to other members. Instead, they share their personal experiences and stories, and invite other members to “take what they like and leave the rest”—that is, to determine for themselves what lesson they could apply to their own lives.
The best place to learn how Al-Anon works is at an al-anon meeting in your local community. Personal contact is an important element in the healing process. These Web page selections may give you some encouragement to visit your first meeting.
If you or someone you know is going through this, read this and save yourself from living a terrible life. Call al-anon.
I love you my friends.
In the early days of my recovery, I couldn’t stay sober. I’d get 90 days of sobriety or maybe even more, then finally six months. Cause for celebration! Out I went, drunk and sick. My sponsor told me “You don’t want to quit drinking.” I denied it, but deep down, I knew he was right. I’d get drunk then come back, dragging my drunken butt in to hide behind the apron of mother AA.
Getting sober isn’t a matter of just quitting drinking. It has to come from, as it says in the 5th chapter off Alcoholics Anonymous, from an HONEST desire to stop drinking. Not because a few days before Christmas you got drunk again and screwed up your family’s enjoyment of the holidays.
Right now, you may be feeling stronger after the drunk of a few days ago. So, now is a good time to get drunk. “No, wait! One more day. By that time most of the wounds I inflicted on me and my family over the holidays won’t be so painfull.” It’s amazing how the next drunk has a way of completely wiping clean the pain of that last drunk!
Don’t B.S. yourself. You either want sobriety or you don’t. I know what it’s like to want to get drunk. There were times when nothing would stop my compulsion to drink, not even an AA meeting. I would hate myself, but I knew that as soon as the meeting was over, so was my sobriety. It’s a continuous nightmare. It only gets worse, never better.
Alcoholism is a disease that tells you don’t have a disease, all the while pushing you further down the ladder. “This time will be different, than my last drunk.” And so, the cycle continues until you have lost everything and even maybe, your life. Alcoholism is a progressive disease AND it only gets worse, never better.
Drinking less, eating before you drink, not drinking until your work is done and so many other attempted escapes from the ferocity of alcohol will only delay the inevitable. Wow! Drunk again, how’d that happen?
Listen, I love you all because I know how bleak things can get. Just stay sober today, go to an AA meeting and don’t worry about tomorrow. One day at a time.
Oh, and revisit the video in the blog before this one. It may change your life. Oh, by the way. Smoking a joint then getting behind the wheel increases your chance of having an accident by as much as 50%. It’s true.!!
God Bless you my brothers and sisters.
Should I cut down on my drinking? Or Quit?
With fall here, screaming kids back to school and Labor Day behind us, it might be a good time to assess whether or not you’re drinking too much. The dangers of not knowing where you stand on the “Drunk O Meter,” could be catastrophic. You could lose everything; your family, kids, job and worse yet, your life or someone else’s life. The thing about alcoholism, as we say in my recovery program, is that it is the only disease that tells “you don’t have a disease.”
Here are a few things to consider: First, visit my site www.mynameishoot.com, then do a little self evaluation. If you have been drinking at a level that is considered high risk or heavy drinking, usually described as five or more drinks in one sitting, then you may want to consider making a change to your drinking pattern. — Or quit altogether. But which is the best choice for you? Should you try moderating your alcohol consumption, or should you try to quit?
Many people do learn to moderate their drinking and are successful in returning to a low risk drinking pattern. There are support groups for those who are trying to cut down or moderate their drinking. One of the best resources I’ve found, covering all aspects of drinking is, www.about.com/alcoholism.
When Cutting Down Doesn’t Work
If you try to cut down, but find that you cannot stay within the limits that you set for yourself, it may be best to quit instead. One of the main reasons that people decide to quit drinking and seek help to do so is because they find they have lost the ability to control the amount they drink; and that is the description of alcoholism!!
You are the person who is in the best position to make the decision of whether to cut down or quit. If you can consistently drink one or two drinks and no more, then you may be able to cut down to a low-risk drinking pattern. But if you find that those first two drinks usually trigger an urge for more, chances are moderation is not an option.
When Quitting Is Advised
There are other reasons that quitting drinking may be a better option for you than moderation or cutting down, according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. Please visit “Resources and links” at www.mynameishoot.com to see what may work best for you. Completely anonymous. Our thanks to www.about.com/alcoholism for the many resources they provide to those of us who have been dealt the alcoholism card.
I love you guys,
The perception is, is that underage drinking in the U.S. is on the rise. Well, the good news is, underage drinking is down dramatically. The proportion of high school seniors who have ever consumed alcohol is down. The percentage of high school seniors who drink at any time is down - way down.
Drinking among 12 – 17 year olds has dropped by 65% over the past 23 years. Over-all underage drinking is down more than ever. College students, who always attract a lot of attention in the press, have the lowest rate of drinking in the thirty eight year history of keeping these records. The proportion of students reporting occasional or frequent beer drinking has dropped to an historic 44.8 %. That’s down from 73% in 1982.
This news comes from Professor David J. Hanson – University of New York. To see all his findings log on:
This is great news, but we’ve got a long way to go. The key is educating our young people of the dangers of alcohol at an early age. Take that from a guy who started drinking at age 12.
“Hoot” Hooten Former Chairman of the Santa Maria, California – Under Age Drinking Task Force
(Reuters) – Olympic silver medalist skier Jeret “Speedy” Peterson has committed suicide near Salt Lake City. Peterson, 29, was found with a self-inflicted gunshot wound on Monday night, shortly after he called emergency dispatch to say he was going to kill himself.
He was a silver medalist in the men’s freestyle aerials competition at the 2010 Winter Games in Vancouver, Canada.
Peterson’s body was found beside his vehicle on a road just outside Salt Lake City. Police said he left a suicide note, but they declined to reveal the contents of the message.
Peterson’s death on Monday came three days after the Olympic athlete was arrested in Idaho on suspicion of misdemeanor drunken driving. He was released from the Blaine County Jail in Idaho after posting $500 bail.
He failed three field sobriety tests, including a walk and turn and a one-leg stand, according to a police report.
Peterson pleaded not guilty in paperwork filed by his attorney to the charge of driving under the influence and the speeding citation.
Peterson gained the nickname “Speedy” because coaches thought he resembled the cartoon character “Speed Racer” when wearing his helmet. He invented his signature jump the “Hurricane,” a five-twist and three-flip maneuver that landed him the silver medal in Vancouver.
Peterson’s behavior at times got him in trouble with the law and sports officials. In 2006, he was sent home from the 2006 Olympic Winter Games in Torino, Italy, after a fight, according to the U.S. Ski and Snowboard Association.
“Speedy’s” death, on the heals of Amy Windehouse’s death reminds me of what some old drunk told me years ago about alcohol being an equal opportunity destroyer.
If you’re like “Speedy,” Amy and me, find yourself in a little trouble, often. It’s time for a self analysis.
Do something about it before you waste away your life like me and millions of others who have our disease.
God rest “Speedy” and Amy’s souls.